I never really plan anything in advance – holidays, what I am doing next week, even what I am cooking for tonight’s meal. OK work has to be the exception, clients want to know when I am going to be arriving!
Buddha said: The Secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly. This is probably easier said than done for the majority of people.
I know a lady who years ago told me that she was starting a savings plan as she wanted to take her husband on a cruise for their 25th wedding anniversary – this was when they had been married 12 years, so they still had another 13 to go! Now although the idea was nice, in reality I thought she was mad and told her so – I could not see how anyone could plan 13 years ahead. I remarked that she could walk down the road, look into someone’s eyes and fall madly in love. I was not far off the mark; she met someone at work, left her husband and married the new love of her life…… I have not asked if she is planning another cruise!
So what is it that makes us want to plan so far ahead? And is it a good thing to do? There is the Yiddish proverb Mentsch tracht, Gott lach - Man plans, God laughs. Everyone has plans, dreams, hopes, and aspirations, call them what you will – but do we ever truly “get there”, and if we do is it what we actually envisaged, how long did it last, or did life take you off in a totally different direction? Have you ever been truly happy & contented only to see your world fall apart? Yep been there, done that, got the T shirt.
And, a whole new subject is “what is happiness”? Is it having money, success, big house, the latest phone or is it simply inner contentment?
So is Buddha right? It is no good looking back, you will never move on unless you can leave the past behind. They say as one door closes another opens – sometimes it’s just hell being stuck in the hallway. It is no good worrying about the future – who knows what life has in store for us, it is certainly no good fretting about it.
Today put your trust in the moment – it is hard to do believe me, but have faith and who knows what wonderful joys will come your way.